Dharam, a master trainer at Pua Training, has always believed that there is one commodity you can never buy – time.

The richest men spend their time wisely; therefore he believes in order to get rapid success you must take action without hesitation, this is what Dharam is all about – Action Without Hesitation.

Having appeared on various media outlets throughout the world, more recently BBC Radio, there has been one key observation made and that is Dharam clearly enjoys what he does – you see in order to gain success in any area, you must first enjoy it – this is what Dharam’s work gravitates around – once you begin to enjoy what you do success will follow.

A quote that Dharam himself likes to lead his own life by is

“The traffic lights of life will never always be green, you see its not that the universe conspires against you, but nor will it set-up the pins for you to knock them down. If you keep saying ‘some day’ these will be nothing more than two words you take to the grave.’ So, I think it is time you started to create your own damn green lights…”

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Four time speaker of The 21 Convention, star of The Community Tapes documentary series (link), and the “Bruce Lee of Game”, Adam Lyons was once voted ‘Least Likely to Ever Get a Girlfriend’ in school by his classmates. Age 15, Adam decided to try his best to improve his love life by working to become more attractive, and to understand the psychology of why we become attracted to others.

For 11 years he went by largely unsuccesful falling into a couple of relationships and spending most of the time completely perplexed by the opposite sex.

In the summer of 2006 one of his best friends handed him a copy of the book The Game by Neil Strauss with the words, “Read this book, you’ll take to it like a duck to water.” Since then Adam has become known as one of the worlds leading authorities on dating and attraction, has been consistently ranked the #1 pickup artist in the world, and is the CEO of the North American branch of PUA Training.

Adam Lyons lives and works out of Austin Texas with his lovely wife Amanda Lyons.

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Here is a question I would like to pose to you. What is the purpose of qualification?

When asked this most people get it wrong. They may say it convinces the girl you have standards, so she will like you more. Sure it does that, but that isn’t what it is for. Some might say, it allows you to test to see if she is already into you. It can be used for that, but still not the real purpose. Some guys use it to elicit values from a girl so they can mirror her better. It can do that, but its still not what I am looking for. Some people say that it gives you a list of reasons to tell a girl you like her. That way she won’t think you only enjoy her looks. Yet, this is also not the right answer.

These are all uses of qualification. These are things it creates, and they can be extremely helpful. Still, this is not the true purpose. The purpose of qualification is to screen for the traits you want in a woman. These traits vary depending on what you want her for.

Here is a list of things I was looking for when trying to find a girlfriend. You could want completely different attributes in a woman. In no particular order.

1.Bisexual

I want a girl that likes women as much as me. I also want to have threesomes, so this is really basic. However most people make the mistake of not even asking.

2.She’s intelligent.

I have trouble dealing with unintelligent women. I’m a bit of an intellectual snob at times. I need a girl that can relate to my thoughts. There is no bigger turn off than explaining something twice.

3.She can cook.

I can’t cook well. Because I eat a strict diet, I cook a lot. So I want a girl that cooks better than me to share the load. Also, deep down, every man wants Mrs. Cleaver.

4.No Jealousy Issues

I am a massive flirt. At this point, every time I talk to women I flirt. Its just a bloody habit. It’s how I talk. So my girl cannot be easily upset by this sort of thing. Also, jealousy issues don’t mix with threesomes very well.

These are just a few, but they illustrate my point. During the last year, anytime a girl failed on a quality, I knew she wasn’t truly relationship material. This meant she could either be a fuck buddy, or a one night stand. This is how you find a good woman. You actually have to look for one. I am simply not compatible with certain women. Religious women tend to hate me, so I don’t date them.

This is the point of qualification. You shouldn’t use it because you want to trick her. You use it, because you legitimately care what kind of person she is. If you have these standards in the back of your mind, then you will be better off. When you know what you want, women find you more attractive. That’s great, but the reason is never attraction. The reason you use these is to judge whether or not you want her.

Most guys simply don’t have standards. They seem to just jump into a relationship with the first girl that will have them. A person of quality wouldn’t do that. You should be a person of quality. Before you let some girl into your life, make sure that she deserves it.

Some guys have trouble transitioning into these qualification questions. The questions are fairly simple. You just ask. Somethings need to be phrased a little gingery, and some can’t be asked. However, a lot simply can. Asking is the only way I can tell if a girl is bisexual. Usually it goes something like this.

There is a bit of a dip in the conversation, so I decide to bring up the topic. I have about a dozen ways to do so. Here are examples.

“Why do all women want to fuck Angelina Jolie?”

“Where’s your girlfriend? What you aren’t into girls? Why not?”

“Do you find other women attractive.” This usually transitions into me talking about the incredible beauty of the female form.

In order to transition in, simply add this to the beginning.

“That reminds me of something,”

“My friends and I were talking about,”

“Hmm, odd thought…”

“Hmmm, I want to ask you a question, but I’m not sure you can handle it.” (Credit, Nick Sparks) This one is best of used before a sexual question. Such as one about threesomes.

So now I know that answer. Others can be a bit more difficult. If I want to see if she is intelligent, then I pay attention to what she says more, and notice things. I don’t just let her coast. I actually press her for opinions and thoughts. Which is starkly different than the “waiting to talk” attitude of most guys in the community. I ask girls if they can cook. Then I let them use my kitchen to prove it. Cooking dinner is my favorite date activity.

Simply figure out how to test for the things on your list. This will manufacture opportunities for the girl to impress you. It will also give you more reasons to like her. If you have these standards then girls will live up to them. If you have no standards, then women will disappoint you. It does take time to find a girl that can live up to the expectations you have. However, the search is worth the payout.

-Dodger/Hshudo