Intimate Relationships | A Contrarian Guide

 

Name: “Sock”- shorten childhood nickname for Socrates, which is my birth name that I later had changed due to societal and peer pressures. My parents first met during a literature course in college and fell in love reading a play by Socrates… somewhere they thought it would be terribly romantic if they got married and named their first son Socrates… They did and the rest is my history… …or so the story goes…

Six years ago I found the men’s community in the emerging blogosphere, in search of not only trying to save an unhealthy and failing relationship, but in desperate search to find myself and reconnect to a society of men where I had previously always excelled and realized myself. It was something that I had lost touch of and was dearly lacking. It was the first tangible step in changing my life by re-taking control and authorship of it.

I found and discovered many, many things in the community… about myself, my life, my ideals and my values. I found and made friendships that I hold dear to this day. It more than anything for me was a culture that fostered and nurtured acts of self discovery, analysis and ability to be naked and raw with my honesty, as expressed to myself and others. It was this support group with which you could honestly engage and receive feedback, which I found so critical to my personal development. It was and still is many, many things to me well beyond ‘The Game’.

Who am I? I’m honestly not sure. I can tell you I’m (currently) a 43 year old man, professional (Architect), guest speaker at The 21 Convention 2011 of Orlando Florida, a man who is still trying to honor his inner child and balance the desires, ambitions and responsibilities of a grown man… to realize an idealized self… in that regard I’m a process, part of a journey of discovery… I am a son, a brother, a friend to many, an ass-hole to some, a lover to a few and a nameless face in a crowd all in one… I am a composition of the human kaleidoscope of being… unique and utterly common… yet distinctly a noble being.
 

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  1. Dasani says:

    Amazing talk. The first half I tuned in and out, heard it all before. But the second half really started to hit home, especially when he talked about ending relationships and dealing with stresses and suffering. Powerful. The guys in the audience were clearly moved too.

  2. Anon says:

    Best speech ever. He needs to come back next year and give another one. This should be the future of the community.

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