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Name: “Sock”- shorten childhood nickname for Socrates, which is my birth name that I later had changed due to societal and peer pressures. My parents first met during a literature course in college and fell in love reading a play by Socrates… somewhere they thought it would be terribly romantic if they got married and named their first son Socrates… They did and the rest is my history… …or so the story goes…

Six years ago I found the men’s community in the emerging blogosphere, in search of not only trying to save an unhealthy and failing relationship, but in desperate search to find myself and reconnect to a society of men where I had previously always excelled and realized myself. It was something that I had lost touch of and was dearly lacking. It was the first tangible step in changing my life by re-taking control and authorship of it.

I found and discovered many, many things in the community… about myself, my life, my ideals and my values. I found and made friendships that I hold dear to this day. It more than anything for me was a culture that fostered and nurtured acts of self discovery, analysis and ability to be naked and raw with my honesty, as expressed to myself and others. It was this support group with which you could honestly engage and receive feedback, which I found so critical to my personal development. It was and still is many, many things to me well beyond ‘The Game’.

Who am I? I’m honestly not sure. I can tell you I’m (currently) a 43 year old man, professional (Architect), guest speaker at The 21 Convention 2011 of Orlando Florida, a man who is still trying to honor his inner child and balance the desires, ambitions and responsibilities of a grown man… to realize an idealized self… in that regard I’m a process, part of a journey of discovery… I am a son, a brother, a friend to many, an ass-hole to some, a lover to a few and a nameless face in a crowd all in one… I am a composition of the human kaleidoscope of being… unique and utterly common… yet distinctly a noble being.





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  1. [...] almost speechless, because it is the ultimate testimony to the efficacy of Sock’s speech (link) on interpersonal relationships, and it is a profoundly personal [...]

  2. [...] have spoken more with in person this past year in Orlando), It was interesting to me that you found this speech so transformational. As someone who as always viewed the core of pickup as communication, and the [...]

  3. Dasani says:

    Amazing talk. The first half I tuned in and out, heard it all before. But the second half really started to hit home, especially when he talked about ending relationships and dealing with stresses and suffering. Powerful. The guys in the audience were clearly moved too.

  4. Anon says:

    Best speech ever. He needs to come back next year and give another one. This should be the future of the community.

  5. [...] psychology of male/female intimate relationships is a subject that this is easily observable in. While it is true that our psycho-sexuality is [...]

  6. [...] When I had the opportunity to speak at the 21 Convention, which squarely has its roots, but has grown vastly beyond the pick-up community, I knew I would be speaking against the winds of popular opinion (Pick-up community) when championing relationship skills development. As such, I spent a considerable degree of time talking about the fertile ground relationships are for self development and men actualizing their lives as they envision them. The following is a general list of some of them; [...]

  7. [...] the end, and as you can see above, 21 Convention speaker Socrates from is now done filming his interview for the ongoing T21C documentary [...]

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