Steve “El Topo” Mayeda & The 21 Convention
Posted on 04. Jun, 2010 by Anthony 'Dream' Johnson in News
It’s the return of The Red Mole! As seen at T21C 2008/2009 and star of The Community Tapes (see Steve’s episode here), Steve Mayeda is getting ready to rock and roll for The 21 Convention 2010 of Orlando Florida. He is unfortunately not able to make it to The 21 Convention 2010 of Stockholm Sweden – but no worries! As stated, Steve is now bringing the convention to you online, answering any questions you may have personally.
Register for T21C 2010 of Orlando Florida by clicking here, event dates July 22nd-25th.
Register for T21C 2010 of Stockholm Sweden by clicking here, event dates June 11th-13th.
Sign up for the Stockholm convention before June 9th to save 50 euro off the door price, and the Orlando convention before June 9th to save $200 off the door price.
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- Free shipping (international or domestic) on any individual event DVDs you would like to order – limit of 5 DVDs if shipper internationally.
- A $150 discount on our entire 43 disc master set.
- A $100 discount on our entire twenty disc 2009 event DVD set.
- Access to all free bonus workshops and seminars available during the convention.
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Tjena!
So my situation is this:
I go to university and my A-game is “waterproof as frog’s ass” (as someone said at the convention). Many girls are “swivelling” around me, that is their attraction for me shifts from 6-10 (Francis Adams). The bad part; sometimes I feel I run around serial-opening people (Adam Lyons), I pretty much have every girl’s number there is worth having – but they are all flaky. Furthermore, I caught one-itis for a girl that is already in a relationship at school. And unfortunately, my self-concept is tied with how many women I got.
The question is:
I cannot really establish any LTR because I shift from being superneedy for validation to completely non-reactive dependent on my interaction with the one-itis. How should I invest my time, because now I am losing every girl I attract, in stealing my classmate’s girlfriend or being persistant and comfort building with “just another girl”?
Hey Steve!
I want to thank you for all the value you have given. I can’t wait to meet you in Orlando! Here’s my question:
Whenever I’m approaching a girl, I always feel like I have an agenda, whether it is to overcome AA, to get a kiss, or to get laid. As a result I feel like I’m always going up wanting something from her, which I’m sure she can sense. What’s a good practical way to change this mindset?
Thanks!
-Ecstasy
Hei el topo
first of all, i want to tell you that i admire you as a person, is just like those persons in life who stuck in your head and in your heart.
My problem is not getting laid ,although i would love to ,and i think of it as a symptom for something bigger. When someone is brought to this life, he is given a chance which is equal to any others chance,but little by little your environment start shaping and/or limiting you. When i remember been around 4 to 7 years old ,i find that i was an active and social person ,i didn´t need mystery´s canned openers or adam’s social circle “theory”,i will just go to school have fun talk with other kids, see a cute girl go to her and i even kissed one .I don´t know but i have this idea that when you take someone’s childhood ,when you raped it when you destroy it ,you destroy some of what makes as human and you change that persons view for the whole world, so that kid becomes an isolated person, he develop limitations and so he doesn´t believe anymore in him self,he is incongruent with what he is. I think of what is called a “natural” in the community as a normal person just a normal person who had a normal life ,he is person that socialized with people and so he developed the tools of social communication , as he developed his tools for verbal communication/talking (which may be seen as a sub tool of the first one ).Body language, tonality ,conversational skills etc all these are social communication/interaction tools ,that he developed .But someone who lack those skills will suffer and will always feel behind,its just like to persons ,one who developed fully his verbal communicational tools and someone who struggles to say one sentence. And when i look back from a third persons perspective i see that i was always following people, i didn´t have any friends ,or my so called friends they were just using me, i was always nice to people but people(almost all of them) where never nice to me,and this is was one of the reasons that last charismas i crashed into tears in front of my family saying and repeating the sentence “why do people always neglect me,i am always nice to people but nobody is nice to me”
There is a lot more to say but i think its enough,i don’t have a question but i just wanted to share some ideas with a friend ,and i feel a little bit relieved ,and sorry btw way for my english i am not a native,and its really sad that you couldn’t make it to stockholm,i would have loved to go to orlando to see you but even going to stockholm was big financial saving plan ,i have been saving for 5 months
.Take care
I’m 20 years old and completely new to the pickup community, but I’ve done relatively well on my own. I definitely wish I would have discovered this community before now. Anyways, I’m have problems with a few things that are related.
The first thing is bitching. I never know what to do or say when a girl starts trying to control me or criticizes something about me or complains. I’ll give you an example. I was hanging out with my girlfriend at her place and she asked me to pick up some fast food for her. I didn’t feel like driving anywhere so I suggested to order something in instead. She complained about how I never do anything for her, etc. obviously just trying to get her way. I told her I didn’t like her talking to me that way and trying to control me. She got pissed and told me to leave. I’m starting to think I’m in an unhealthy relationship, but should I be doing anything different the next time I encounter a situation like this? Another thing I experience a lot of is girls being critical of me. This happens with all girls I hang out with, they ask why I didn’t shave, why I bought such an ugly shirt, when I’m going to cut my hair, etc. just little things to try and piss me off. Even my girlfriend now, she always comments on how dumb my shoes look. What the hell should I be saying? I don’t want to lose my cool, but it pisses me off sometimes. Last thing for this part, when a girl starts getting really negative and complains about everything, how should I approach it? What I’ve been doing is just going along with her and reinforcing that behavior by agreeing with her, but sometimes I get sick of it. I want any girlfriend I have to feel comfortable coming to me with whatever, but how do I stop the negativity?
My next problem is dealing with guys. Two issues: guys trying to get under my skin, and guys trying to dominate the interaction in a mixed set. What attitude should I have when a guy is purposely trying to piss me off by saying condescending things, being sarcastic, etc. Usually I just act really cocky in response to whatever is thrown at me, kind of in a playful way, but the guys who have this behavior never quit. I feel like punching them sometimes. What should I do to shut them up besides knocking them out? Next issue, how can I dominate a guy who is trying to dominate me in an interaction with a girl? This happens to me all the time, if I’m with a girl and another guy, or maybe a few guys, I have troubles standing out and controlling the interaction. This is probably my biggest problem, I’m totally comfortable around girls, I just can’t deal with the other guys who are trying to hit on her and try to make me look bad at the same time.
Thanks for your time and help.
Work on yourself (lifestyle/who you are) so you can compete, have a stronger frame with girls, and make new friends ( =.
Hello man!
Im a starter at level 1
and choosing between going to the conventionen or a more expensive Bootcamp.
What would u recommend for personal and pick up development, and why?
P.s You can always change ur mind about coming to Europe
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If you never had a girlfriend, nor made out with anyone, why do you not recommend learning the game if you are under 21?
Not learning ‘The Game’ (social dynamics, seduction, proper communication) is like admitting to a weakness.
hence, my question….
Lol I think learning the skills taught in the game are fundamental to every Man, regardless of ‘age’.