About Nick Sparks (source)
Everything happens for a reason.
I learned this lesson at a fairly early age. My high school years were spent honing my social skills, and by my freshman year in college I’ll admit they were good. I really had no problem making friends and always exhibited a flair for performing that continues to this very day. The kink in my armor, however, was the fact that I still hadn’t figured out women.
Those first two years of college, my romantic experiences (which were never very consistent) consisted of the occasional night where I was a bit tipsy at a party, found a girl who was equally tipsy, and somehow manage to not screw anything up. It was after that 2nd year that luckily, fate interceded.
Editor’s Note: Check out Nick Spark’s FEARLESS
I didn’t know what was about to hit me. All I knew was that it was May after my sophomore year, I couldn’t go back home for another summer, and I had to find a sublet. Luckily my friend Katie had a room for me to rent in her sorority and would vouch for me to take it for the summer.
Ask any guy if he wants to drive an F1 race car and of course he’ll say yes. If that same guy is tossed the keys and told to get behind the wheel, unless he was an F1 driver, he’d probably have a bit more trepidation. That was my feeling moving in that week. Of course I was excited to be surrounded by beautiful women all the time, but I was definitely not used to living with more women than my mom and sister and wasn’t sure what would happen.
Luckily I had my social skills to fall back on. That spring I started building friendships with the girls in the house who were still in town, and by the time that the full heat of the summer was upon us, I was comfortable in my new home.
I quickly got a firsthand look at the conversations that girls were having about boys. Additionally, I would get to meet all of the guys that were hooking up with the girls in the house, and I soon became friends with the cooler ones. It could not have been a more perfect storm. I got bombarded with the full wonder that is the female mind and also got front row seats to watch how guys who were good with women thought and acted.
By fall, everything was different. My group of guys, which now included several of the guys I met that summer, was one of the “top” groups of guys on campus and I was dating several of the more attractive girls on campus, including a couple of my former housemates. My friends who had been absent that summer noticed the difference and began asking for advice. I became the unofficial “coach” of the group and as they started telling their friends about me, I built up a small reputation as the guy to come to for dating advice for both men and women.
Fast-forward 4 years and a million stories later and I’m working in sales as a mortgage banker for a top company in Michigan, while still being summoned for dating advice in my downtime. While sitting in my cubicle one evening, I get a call from a friend who tells me about a book called “The Game”, and suggests that I can actually make a living doing what I had loved doing for the past 4 years.
In what felt like a whirlwind, I started my first blog and started offering my coaching services to the public. Fueled by good reviews, I packed up for what I thought would be a considerable stay in Chicago. During that time, Christian Hudson, an acquaintance from college, was just starting The Social Man and caught wind of some of the reviews coming out of Chicago. He invited me to come out to New York to do some work with him, and 6 months after unpacking my life in the windy city I was once again on the move to Manhattan- and the rest is history.
Everything happens for a reason. Some men were born to rap. Some men were born to program. I am lucky enough to be able to share my accumulated knowledge to help other men achieve social and dating lives that they want for themselves. No man is naturally good with women, but we all can be the moment we make the decision to get this handled.
– Nick Sparks
- Visit Nick at TheSocialMan.com and learn how to be confident
- Check out Nick Spark’sFEARLESS
- Follow Nick on Facebook
- Like The Social Man on Facebook
[...] [...]
Great speech!
A lot of good advice about leaning in and leading!
Amazing speech, been watching all the videos that are posted on the website, just amazing. Thanks to all of the speakers and to Dream
@Norway Pua
No problem man, we’re here to help, glad you’re enjoying the site. Stay tuned for the Euro convention next summer!
-Dream
[...] only had the chance to hang out with Christian Hudson and Nick Sparks a short amount of time, but everything about them says MY HEAD IS SCREWED ON STRAIGHT- which [...]
One of the best speeches i’ve ever seen. I am proud that this much quality can come out of a fellow UCF student. You have my eternal props, Dream!
Hey everything is awsome guys hella props to you guys. But wasnt there more speakers? I was really excited to see AFC Adam’s speech. So wut happend to that?
@Reinard
There are 3 speakers that spoke in 2009 who are not on the site at the moment. Nilatak from 2007 spoke again. We have it filmed but he has chosen not to release it. Nathan of Real Social Dynamics spoke but filming was not allowed, and Adam Lyons spoke again for a full 2 hours. It was requested his speech be held until September 28th, so check back then for the full video in true HD.
thanks, hope to see you next summer
-Dream
sweet man preciate the info. And again your the man. Hey real quick was it true that after the seminar portion people actually got either heavily discounted bootcamps or even free trainning during the night time??
Yes. There were free bonus talks not filmed given each night at the hotel, as well as in field coaching at a discount- and yes, even free on rare occasions. We hope to have the same happen in 2010 and Europe next summer, but, perhaps even better organized (like buying a workshop ahead of time for example from a speaker).
thanks for the kind words
-Dream
42:00 – 45:00 microcalibration
Wow, best speech I have ever seen!
Nick is amazing.
Whow, I seriously never guessed you know so much. i feel ashamed I’ve never gave you the props you deserve at your blogs
Props, great speech.! It’s really worth the time watching..
Really good stuff, especially about leading, need to work on that lots, pumps me up a lot.
keep getting a white screen where the videos should be, so cant see any of the 2009 videos? can anyone help? i can see the 2007/2008 videos though. Thx
Ya I can’t wait to get the 2009 videos on the new player (that 07/08 are on). Right now they don’t fully support HD though…so it’s a toss up =(. Soon though!
As for now, let’s get you rollin. What browser are you using? Try using FireFox or Google Chrome if you aren’t already.
Let me know though and we can go from there.
thanks for the advice dream.. have tried with mozilla firefox & google chrome, still get the blank white screen, have restarted the browers a few times and same result, although once the white screen had a vimeo sign with petals rotating but nothing else, stayed like that for over 10 mins so i gave up..anything else you recommend i try?
Yes, try deleting your video cache (a temporary file). Also, dumb question, but do you have adobe flash installed? And do other vimeo videos play for you? (try one or two at http://www.vimeo.com)
[...] one of the top dating coaches in the industry, and is in a sense the co-founder of The Social Man. His 2009 presentation at The 21 Convention was one of the most well received at the event live, especially [...]
Wow this is my favorite talk from 2009 so far. Nick is such an amazing and charismatic speaker. He also is very concise and explanatory about his techniques and is very fun to watch.
Also, he most definitely fucked Erika sometime during the conference
.
Mat.
How do I download this? I need to watch it every day.
No downloads yet but the DVD of Nick Sparks is available for $19.99 at
http://www.the21convention.com/store/
Great speach! He makes it seem so simple and natural. Seems like i can use alot of these concepts in highschool.
[...] on 05. Jul, 2010 by Anthony 'Dream' Johnson in Events, News, Videos T21C 2009 speakers Nick Sparks and Francis Adams discuss The 21 Convention 2010 of Orlando Florida and the coaching they will be [...]
A lot of this information is not good and will only work if the guy is tall, white and decent looking like Nick Sparks. If a short and/or non-white and/or ugly guy tried to lead a girl or do some of the things he was suggesting, it would come off as forced and creepy.
ACTUALLY, it wouldn’t. Race and height have LITTLE to do with it, dork. It’s ALL about THE WAY YOU PRESENT YOURSELF! (:
There are so many examples of short ethnic guys who are good in the community, that that shit needs to stop coming up. It’s self sabotaging to always look at yourself as the inferior one. If you believe that you suck, people have no reason to doubt you.
Bingo
This was incredible. It really makes me want to go back to school and do all of the things that Nick said to do, and how incredibly easy he makes it seem.
Amazing speech. I think this is my favorite of them all.